Anonymous asked: how do you know if a guy really loves you?

Well I assume you’re speaking about a boyfriend who has told you he’s in love with you, but you’re not sure if you believe him, right? I’m not sure, so I’ll just assume that that’s the case.

Well first of all, do you TRUST him? Notice how I didn’t ask if you loved him because that’s irrelevant (for now); but do you trust him? There are so many guys out there who will do anything just to get a girl pants, but there are also a lot of guys who genuinely do love their girlfriends. And then there are the ones in between who think they love someone, but it’s really just teenage infatuation.

First scenario: the horndogs. Let me just put it this way: STAY. AWAY. FROM. THEM. I know it may seem exciting to try out.. things with your boyfriend because it makes you feel so incredibly mature and grown-up, but we’re young and we have so many more years to engage in sexual activities with other people. It’s so much wiser to wait rather than regret a decision you’ve made. And I’m not even talking about sex; any sexual activity is pretty much emotionally linked to a girl’s heart and it can damage her for good. Anyway, sorry for going from love to sex, but my point is is that many people out there will proclaim their ‘love’ to you just to get some.. so if he’s been pressuring you to have sex with you in the past, then it’d be reasonable to be highly doubtful of him. Don’t trust his words, and don’t trust him. Actually, if he’s been doing all this, dump his ass.

Second of all, if he truly loves you… then he truly loves you :) If you don’t feel as if you return those feelings just yet, it’s okay to let him down gently (Please don’t pull a Jess from New Girl and say “Thank you,” that’ll just make him feel even worse than silence). I won’t tell you what to say instead if his love is unrequited because he needs to hear your feelings from your mouth, not from mine. :)

Third of all, if he’s somewhere in between, then it’s your choice to decide what to do. You could either hint that it might just be infatuation, but that could be a really heartless thing to do to a guy who’s just said he loves you. He could feel like you’re accusing him of lying. Or you could just pretend that you believe that he is in love when he’s not.. personally, I’d be straight up honest (with kindness, of course, I’d never be rude and blunt), but that’s just me.

Sorry if I didn’t really answer your question, it’s just really vague and I’m a little confused. Sorry I took over a week to reply haha, but hopefully this helped!